Nowadays there are so many secrets to a long-lasting and harmonic
marriage. You should realize that marriage requires constant work and
struggle for mutual understanding and happiness. Be ready to face the
reality of marriage and do your best to maintain love, passion and
friendship regardless of all possible problems and barriers. I hope this
article will give you greater chances to overcome the difficulties of a
family life.
1. Develop your identity
When two people get married, they become one in making financial
decisions and raising children. They usually get so overloaded with
various tasks that can easily lose their identity. Moreover, women tend
to want to please their husbands and make sacrifices in order to do it.
This recipe for unhappiness can make you feel miserable and despondent.
It is necessary to learn early on how to compromise, but not give up.
You shouldn’t forget to do things you like. Don’t forget to meet your
friends at least once a week. Also, make time for your favorite hobby.
2. Be in touch
Unfortunately, many of us have busy schedules and sometimes don’t
have an opportunity to communicate with the spouse. Nowadays it is more
convenient to use electronic technology to “keep in touch” during the
day. Send a message or call your beloved to share things and feelings
about your day. Such type of communication will help you find more
topics to speak about in the evening. Don’t wait for a date night,
communicate with one another on a daily basis instead.
3. Focus on your common needs
One of the most significant secrets of a successful marriage is to
focus on your common needs. It is necessary for every person to seek to
do good for the other person, instead of fighting over “what about me.”
Ensure yourself that you are meeting your spouse’s needs. If your needs
are already met you should enjoy your life. A common desire to satisfy
your common needs is the basis of a long-lasting and healthy marriage.
4. Positive outlook
You should realize that negative outlook can greatly affect the
relationship in your marriage. If one spouse is a depressing figure in
the couple, it can make any marriage unhappy. Stay positive and you will
significantly improve the atmosphere in your family for better. It is
necessary to develop the bright side of your mind by thinking
positively. Moreover, you should help your spouse get rid of negativity
and depressive thoughts, if necessary.
5. Believe in your love
Perhaps the best proof of love is trust. Trust is the core element of
any kind of relationships. When you trust in your love, you become
invincible and strong enough to overcome harsh realities of life and
various difficulties together. Hard times are the best periods to check
the strength and sincerity of your love. As Maya Angelou said, “Have
enough courage to trust love more and more time and always one more
time.”
6. A taboo word
When you get married you’d better forget about the existence of the
word ‘Divorce.’ Divorce is not the best way to solve your problems. You
shouldn’t speak and even think about it. Divorce is a destruction of
your marriage. It’s better to put all efforts in finding the way out of
all difficult situations. Such strategy will make your marriage
permanent and strong.
7. Ask happily married couples for advice
If you have an opportunity and desire, you can ask happily married
couples how to live in peace and love for so long. These wise and
experienced people will cheerfully share their ideas and give you a
piece of advice. Every couple has a key secret of their own happiness.
For example, I asked my grandparents to share their own secret of a
long-lasting marriage. I understood that trust, blind eye and a sense of
humor were the main elements of their secret. It was a big honor for me
to receive an advice from such wise, smart and reserved people.
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